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Miss RinRin has noticed that so many people in the BDSM community do not fully understand the differences between ABDL, littles and Age Players. There are so many differences with this one aspect of the BDSM community that it can get confusing if you are not involved with the kink, fetish or lifestyle yourself.

Most people who are not familiar with the terms below associate them with pedophiles and other negative terms for sex crimes against minors. Before you start thinking that way we are going to stop you right now. Every person that participates in any of the following behaviors is an adult. They are not minors. These adults want to do these things with other adults. They do not like children; they like to act like a child. They are not sexually turned on by actual children or people who wear diapers or who play with their biological, adopted, or foster parent. They are attracted to fully grown adults who participate in ROLE PLAYING.


General Glossary

All of the terms listed below engage in gentle and nurturing experiences. Some of the below can also identify as being masochistic, which is when an individual or individuals like to be punished and/or have humiliating experiences. Most individuals who participate in any type of regression and role-play within this community generally call their partners either Mommy or Daddy. This is common with littles.


ABDL stands for Adult Baby Diaper Lovers. For most people who are ABDL; they do not engage in sexual activity while role-playing as an adult baby but as any kink or fetish, some do.

ABDL's tend to enjoy wearing diapers. These can be real baby diapers or adult briefs for incontinence. Some ABDL's use their diapers for both wetting and messes but others just like to wear them. There are some Diaper Lovers that do not fit the Adult Baby role. They are more of a Diaper Fetishist; those individuals tend to get joy sexually and non-sexually via wearing diapers or viewing other adults who wear diapers.

There are some Adult Baby Diaper Lovers that enjoy humiliation involving and wearing diapers. Others appreciate that helplessness feeling they get when they regress to infantilism.


Infantilism is known as "childish behavior" the persistence of infantile characteristics or behavior in adult life. This could be anyone who still has their inner child or who do not act like an adult. Infantilism is different than Paraphilic infantilism.

Paraphilic Infantilism

Paraphilic Infantilism also is known as Autonepiophilia, or Adult Baby Syndrome are actual diagnoses given by a psychologist. Individuals that are typically diagnosed with autonepiophilia or Adult Baby Syndrome have behaviors that may include the following:

  • Drinking from a bottle

  • Wearing a diaper

  • Wear onesie or other clothing

  • Using pacifiers

Infantilism is much different than any other aspect because people diagnosed with Paraphilic Infantilism or Autonepiophilia have no control of what they are doing, ABDL, Bigs, Littles and Age players are all in control of what they are doing and choose to act as an individual of a younger age.

Bigs and littles

Big/little play is when a person or people embody a different biological age. The little acts as a younger age while the Big acts as their caretaker, this could be Mommy or Daddy. Generally, a little is of acting of ages between infant to 12 while middles are usually acting as ages13-18. Activities that correlate with them normally age-appropriate; however, as a reminder, they are adults and can choose to do any adult activity they desire.

An interesting aspect of Big/little play is how it occurs. This can occur in scenes or an ongoing relationship dynamic. “Some littles may embody this relationship with their big without acting specifically as a child, in what is more of a spiritual big/little arrangement. For littles that do ageplay, the little will fully release the inner child and take on the attributes of that specific age” (The Posting Maven, 2015).

Age Players

“Age play or ageplay is a form of role-playing in which individuals act or treat another as if they were a different age. Ageplay is role-playing between adults and involves consent from all parties. Portraying any age can be the goal of ageplay, from babies to the elderly. Usually, this involves someone pretending to be younger than they are, but more rarely can involve assuming an older role” (Holly, 2013). Age Players do not generally live this as a lifestyle, but they do it for scenes in role-playing. Usually, ABDLs, Bigs, and Littles all live their roles as often as possible, and it becomes part of their life.


Holly. (2013, April 06). What Is Age Play? Retrieved March 04, 2018, from https://kinklovers.com/bdsm-facts/what-is-age-play/

LittleLanding. (n.d.). Retrieved May 26, 2018, from https://aboutabdl.weebly.com/

The Posting Maven. (2015, June 28). ID a Day: Bigs & Littles • The Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health. Retrieved March 04, 2018, from http://www.thecsph.org/id-a-day-bigs-littles/